It's Not All About Me or You!

If you've studied or read about quantum physics, you know that an underlying theory is that we all are a part of the whole, that we are connected in some way. In other words, what we believe and do affects those in our areas of influence. Whether or not we believe the theories of quantum physics, it is true our behavior influences those around us, for good or for bad.

The truth is that most of us are self-centered. That may seem harsh but I doubt few of us have often sacrificed for others to our own hurt. In good times and bad, in the United States at least, we are after what is good for us and what makes us happy.

There is a principle in the Bible called "sowing and reaping." Some churches have used that principle to motivate people to give and to fill church coffers. Whether some admit it or not, sustaining their church or organization is at the root of the teaching. Self-centered was the word I used above. Even if the motive is to serve constituents, the end does not justify the means.

The principle of sowing and reaping, interestingly, is a natural law, like gravity for example. It works in both positive and negative ways. It works whether we believe it or not! How we treat and relate to others today, mirrors how we'll be treated tomorrow.

I know someone whose entire life has been focused on themselves, on their desires and needs. This person does think about others' needs, and even tries to serve others from time to time. Underlying the things the person does, however, is their focus on what they can get back for themselves. This is self-centeredness!

We have to learn how to be "others-centered." Our motives to serve others must first come from a genuine desire to make positive contributions in our circles of influence, not from a desire for personal gain. Yes, it means giving up some of our own desires. The end result is, however, that we will get back more than we give!